Sunday, May 18, 2008

Candyman anyone?

It was a choice of writing “big love” (affairs which are common these days), the book that I’m currently reading or an incident that annoyed me today. I chose to talk about men.

"You don't get to call me a whore. When I met you, I thought I had found the person that I was going to spend the rest of my life with. I was done! All the boys and all the bars and all the obvious daddy issues, who cares? I was done. You left me. I'm all glued back together now. I make no apologies for how I chose to repair what you broke. You don't get to call me a whore."

Obviously when people think that they have broken up, some of us choose to cry our lungs out and be in the sorrow state. Some try to be positive and move on. I choose to achieve a well defined target which will lead to a balanced lifestyle for me and my girl. So instead of being happy like the reaction of other people upon me sharing the news, you had the guts to say that I can’t do what is best for me and live the life as I like. That I should consider the effect of my action towards my loved ones.

As far I know, the lil one is my only concern, there is no other loved ones. And I know the opportunities will actually work best for my girl. Is it the fact that my plan is very well defined that it actually makes you intimidated that I can actually move on?

Wishful thinking always ends up into broken promises. If a change was wanted, it could have been done a long time ago. There is no point of making plans when there is no proper blueprint in place. It’s like making the perfect design of a house when you haven’t even purchased the plot of land.

Typical McDreamy type. Seriously. They simply cant make up their bloody mind.

I am not saying it is easy but I feel it is more bearable compare to what I experienced the first time around (which was like a few years ago!). I guess it comes with this age (here we go again of being in our 30s) that there is more to life than letting these things taking control of you.

So lesson to me, never think that you are not good enough to date the McSteamy type. You are as beautiful as you want to be to date with a truly Candy Man (a friend keeps scolding me for thinking I am not good enough to date those seriously good looking and equally nice at heart men). If a Candy Man decides to give his number, DO call!

McDreamy is the knight in shining armour. He pretends to be a nice guy, but in fact he is selfish. He doesn't know what he wants.
McSteamy is plain dirty and naughty. but hot n sexy. He’s brutally honest and doesn't try to hide it. Beneath the bad boy exterior is something worthy.

Ps: Author is fine, just ventilating herself for the sheer stupidity of a few men (a few only, I am sure there are plenty of good men out there). *winks*


zah said...

Dear Ms Istanbul,
Lil one is your reason and strength to move. In my opinion, once we got the strength, we will move way much better than them.. be it in a relationship or professionally.. tkcr.

U.Lee said...

Hi Ms Istanbul, you always bring out beautiful postings...
and I'll say this, never cry because it's over, but smile, because it happened.
Nothing hurts more than realising he meant everything to you, but you meant nothing to him.
And relationships are like glass. Sometimes its better to leave them broken than to hurt yourself putting it back together.
I have been burnt, hurt, bbq'ed, have even cried, but looking back, I smiled, because it happened.
Stay beautiful, Ms Istanbul, and add abit more lip gloss, *wink*. Lee.

Ms Istanbul said...

Hi Zah,

I guess that's the big difference between then and now. Having a broken heart in high school is so overrated. *LOL*

Every hurdle we face, we think of what matters most. When we hold on to that thoughts, we should be able to move forward and remain positive.

Ms Istanbul said...

Hi Lee,

When you were bbq'ed, what seasoning did she use? *winks*

I believe a good relationship should lead to bringing the best out of each other, that we become a better person when we are with them. It should work both ways. It should not be one party achieving what he/she wants, yet the other remains static. I am not talking tangible stuffs, but ur way of thinking, ur emotions, attitude.

Things happen for a reason. The last few weeks opened up some doors of opprtunity. One of them was right under my nose for a long time that I'm asking myself why didnt I notice it before.

Yeah, more lip gloss and a red halter dress. That should make the Candy Man faint. *LOL*

DrFrappucino said...

So what happen when frappucino drop by at mocha's blog?

U.Lee said...

I came I saw, I read, I checked, *wink*. Lee.

Ms Istanbul said...


hmm, a boutique italian cafe? Tho I must say I prefer mine hot..

Ms Istanbul said...


Love your choices of words. *winks*