picture taken from ElizabethtownClaire Colburn: You know, you’re always trying to break up with me, and we're not even together.
Drew Baylor: I know... We're not?
What would you do when you realise you have a crush on someone and that person happens to be a good friend? Do you keep your feelings hidden for the sake of friendship, or would you take the risk and finally let that person know how you truly feel for him/her?
There are moments in our life that we’d meet someone and instantly feel connected to them. Somehow the chemistry seems right and we’d end up being good friends. Yet the same chemistry could also lead to falling in love and some only realise after years of knowing each other.
Why is it easier for us to profess our feelings to a person we’ve only met, say for a few months, than to a person who has known us for our lifetime? Could it be of the idea of familiarity? Is it because we have known each other inside out that make us hesitate to let our feelings known? Or perhaps the idea of rejection should the feelings is not mutual? What will we lose should that happen? I suppose it is our friendship that has been built over the years. The rejection will somehow affect the relationship and to go back where we left before will probably be awkward.
Yet, if that person is really worth it, surely we should take the risk. After all, what is more worst, to be rejected and impair the friendship which could probably be repaired after a few months of reconciliation between two good friends, or to not know what would have been if we had taken the risk?
There is nothing worse than missing an opportunity that could probably lead to a lifelong happiness.
17 comments:
i'm crying when i read this article :(
don't worry too much about opportunities because when things are meant to happen - it can happen anytime! either in a blink of an eye, or ... forever! when the right time comes, if it comes, it just will. meanwhile, concentrate on the wonderful things in life (yeah, look who's talking?! *sigh..)
hej! Ms B...first the songs...really for the winter mood...and the posting...just be sincere to yourself, take a risk and let the event take its course...gambate...;-)
inah dear,
Oh, dont cry. Now I shall think twice to write something like this and stick to the yummy men posting.
d,
"Look who's talking?" *LOL* Thats how I felt upon given this question. I would be the least qualified person to give advice on relationship.
Your input on this matter is much appreciated. You are right about timing. Somehow, we'd notice that moment where we realise the strong connection. the chemical reaction between two persons.
I believe we should appreciate the journey as everything that comes along adds colours to our life.
Hi danial,
*grins* I know. The songs are really getting us into winter mood.
Thank you for your feedback too. Hopefully the person who pose the question will gather his or her thoughts based on this posting and comments left.
ms b dear,
do whatever u hv to do... just don't regret not doing it... ;-)
Loved this post..Tough ques u posed though. I guess it depends on wht kind of friendship i have with the guy. Even if i have a crush on my best friend who is a guy but if i know deep down that I am just not the type of girl he would fall for or if i know that he really loves me as a good friend only then i wouldnt risk the friendship by telling him how i feel. Firstly, it would make him feel all awkward and uncomfortable and secondly, he might feel angry at me for telling him how i feel, thus betraying the friendship.
I'm not that brave but i like to think that i often take calculated risks :)
don't tell. it will no longer fun if you do ;).
n.i.,
I always believe whatever we go through in life, good or bad, the experience is what makes us who we are today.
So i am thankful for my past and look forward to each day as it comes.
CG,
Tough question indeed. Somehow I can relate myself to it.
You are right about knowing his preferences. When you know a person that well and somehow you dont exactly fit the bill, how should you handle with the feelings that you have? It is definitely challenging.
arent most of us take calucated risk to decide on any decision?
darlene,
I know who you are referring to. *winks*
ms b,
i agree ;-)
*ouch
in my case, i decided to remain silent and did not say anything to him.i kept my feelings for 8-9 years. perhaps it's like what you said, i was too afraid that our friendship will be ruined and the awkwardness that follows is unimaginable.
and last week, he got married.
thankfully, it didn't hurt much. glad to see that he finds his happiness.
end of story.
p/s: looking forward to your yummy men entries. i'll try to post another. *lol*
I've never been in this situation, thankfully! hard to say, but if i were, i'd definitely give it a go!
no harm trying right? :)
Fizzy dear,
Ah! I knew I got you when I wrote this. *smiles*
Funny thing is, most of us use "respect our friendship" phrase. Sometimes I wonder, if we had taken the chance, what would have been?
The problem arises when we keep going back and forth, knowing that we still have them to fall back.
No yummy men posting this week. My creative juice is not pumping. So please entertain me with your candy men.
momster,
No harm in trying, esp when that person is so damn yummy. *grins*
Yet, it is easier said than done.
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